Delusional self-confidence Missed last edition? — catch up on the archive here Hey Reader, Ask 100 people “what makes someone more attractive, respected, and successful” 99 are gonna put one thing at the top of that list: Confidence. But what if confidence isn’t what 99% of people think it is? The loud voice/charisma/loose body language. Sure, tactics help. But if you don’t fix why you don’t feel confident on the inside, it’s just a performance. Take the most common advice out there: “fake it...
about 2 months ago • 3 min read
Sleepwalking through life Missed last edition? — catch up on the archive here Hey Reader, I just got back from spending two weeks in Greece. We went for our honeymoon, and it was epic. I realized on the plane that it was my first real trip overseas in about eight years. But what I keep thinking about from this trip isn’t the views or food (which was stupid good). It’s a random street at 5 am. When we landed I couldn’t sleep. There’s like a 10-hour time difference from Arizona. Plus I’m one of...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
Two days before my wedding. Missed last week? — Catch up on the archive here Hey Reader, The last email I sent you was the week before my wedding. A full year of planning that went into that day, and Dani and I were both stoked. Well… two days before we unfortunately lost our dog, Hondo. To make a long story short, he had a rare cancer that’s basically impossible to catch until it’s too late. Two days earlier he was swimming and doing his famous 3-legged spin in our backyard. He was literally...
3 months ago • 3 min read
Rediscovery > Reinvention Missed last week? — Catch up on the archive here Closing soon: Our spring sale on My Best Journal is ending. If you've been meaning to grab it and use journaling to change your life, now's the move. 30% off with code SPRING30 at checkout. Hope you enjoy today’s story... it's a personal one. Hey Reader, When I was eight years old the only thing I wanted was a dog. Air Bud was always on Disney channel, and my friends all had cool dogs. But for whatever reason my...
4 months ago • 4 min read
The 'core story' that's been running your life for 20 years Missed last week? — Catch up on the archive here Quick one before we get into it: My Best Journal spring sale is live. 30% off with code SPRING30 at checkout. If you've been meaning to grab it and use journaling to change your life, now's the move. Enjoy today’s newsletter! Hey Reader, I can still remember the chalk trembling in my hand as I stood frozen at the board. Behind me, kids snickered while I stared at “11×7” like it was...
4 months ago • 4 min read
The mess you stopped noticing Missed last week? — Catch up on the archive here This newsletter is brought to you by: Shortform A deal for my readers with reading goals These guys have the best book summaries I've used. They break down the best nonfiction into smart, detailed summaries you can actually learn from. It's how I decide which books are worth the full read and which ones I just need the big ideas from. Readers of this newsletter can sign up for free and get $50 off when you're ready...
5 months ago • 5 min read
You left before it worked. Missed last week? — Catch up on the archive here This newsletter is brought to you by: Shortform A deal for my readers with reading goals These guys have the best book summaries I've used. They break down the best nonfiction into smart, detailed summaries you can actually learn from. It's how I decide which books are worth the full read and which ones I just need the big ideas from. Readers of this newsletter can sign up for free and get $50 off when you're ready to...
5 months ago • 4 min read
5 books that shift your identity Missed last week? — Catch up on the archive here Hey Reader, Most books make you feel inspired for a week. Maybe you highlight a few passages, tell yourself you're going to apply it. And then if you're honest... you go right back to being the same person. I've read over 400 in the last decade. Most of them did exactly that. But every now and then you find one that rewires something. Not just a new idea you agree with, but a shift in how you see yourself. These...
5 months ago • 7 min read
How to stop caring what people think of you Missed last week? — Catch up on the archive here Hey Reader, There are a million videos on how to stop caring what people think. They’re loaded with reframes, exercises, and journal prompts. I've made a few myself because they can help. But I don’t think this is really a tactics problem. I think it’s a cost problem. And most people have no idea what caring too much is actually costing them. So let me tell you a story on what it almost cost me. Quick...
5 months ago • 3 min read